What is a friend? Well there are different types of friends. You have friends, good friends, best friends, friends with benefits, frenemies, childhood friends, work friends, etc. However, I think the most important type of friend is your best/ good friend, because any other friend doesn't affect your life as much as regular friends do. They advise you on many matters, minor or huge. They are usually the the person whom you tell things that you wouldn't easily tell others so lightly. For example; you're a homosexual. Get the point? (btw, I'm not a homosexual ;))
What constitutes a good/best friend? It took me a while to think about this one...a good friend to me is someone whom I can trust and in turn have them trust me. A good friend is someone who will always be on my side...LOYALTY! A good friend is someone who is honest, but not cruel. For example, "Do I look fat in this dress?" "Umm, yeah you're actually grotesquely fat" Right answer, "No, but that dress is kinda tight."
For me, the number one thing in a close friend is trust. Trust is a vital part of every close relationship. Recently I lost someone who I thought was a good friend. I loved this girl, I would have done anything for her. Alas, our friendship was not to last because she had trust issues with me. Long story short, she threw a bunch of false accusations at me, "You always dump me for a guy!...Where were you?!.. You're lieing!" NEVER in my life have I had a friend, best or not, accuse me of lieing. Why is that? Because I don't lie to my friends and if I did I wouldn't put up such a battle to prove my innocence, which I did with this one. Towards the end of our fight, she reluctantly yielded to my innocent pleas and told me that she would do me a favour and go against her "gut feeling." Aside from the insult of being called a lier, now she was doing me a great favour. Thanks but no thank, I don't need any favours, especially if they are not genuine. I knew that she still thought I was a liar. In the end she hasn't contacted me for nearly three months...why should I contact her? I haven't done anything wrong? I wasn't the one throwing false accusations. I was a god damn GREAT friend and I pointed this out to her by pointing out some of the asshole friends she had. Of course if I did do something wrong I would fess up and do my best to mend things and for those of you who really know me, know that this is true of me.
Friends are important. I want to keep my friends close to me. Sure, friends may get into minor fights and they try to talk about it...which I tried, but apparently I'm still a liar. This one was just being stubborn....at this point my "gut feeling" was telling me that she wasn't just angry about me being a notorious lair...but of course I won't make any accusations. Friends are important, but it is equally important to keep those friends and not lose them because you're delusional. Sure, everyone is different, friends aren't always alike. You can have a bossy friend, a clingy friend, a bitchy friend, hell even a creepy friend! But you know, if they're your good friends, those are minor things that make up their great personality, the reason as to why you are their friend in the first place.
Another thing! Aren't you sick and tired of putting in huge efforts to keep in touch with your friends? I am! Don't you hate it when you're always the one calling, emailing, and msging first? I do! Screw it, there are more than one people in a friendship. Everyone has to do their part! That is why, I'm gonna stop putting in all the effort and let my supposed friends do all the work for a while. If you wanna contact me, call me. If I don't hear from you, boo fucking hoo, you suck as a friend.
